As you gain a reputation for success, more and more women will ask you to mentor them. If you’re like me, you’ll wish you could mentor everyone who asks, but because your time is limited and valuable, you’ve got to be selective about who you help. It’s important to always take the time for due diligence before you agree to a mentoring relationship.
Here are the specific questions I ask a woman before I decide whether or not to mentor her.
5 Questions to Ask a Woman You are Going to Mentor
1. What do you really want to achieve with your life?
Before you agree to help, it’s important that you know what she wants to be and do. It’s important to understand her dreams for the future to ensure that you’re the right person to help her achieve them.
2. What are you doing that’s moving you toward your dreams?
Finding out what she’s doing right lets you in on the way she thinks and her work ethic. Be sure the latter matches up with yours or you’ll become frustrated working with her.
3. What is keeping you from moving toward your dreams?
Find out what she thinks her stopping points are and listen for whether she claims responsibility for this or blames it on some outside force.
4. What help would you expect from me?
Discover whether her expectations of the relationship match up with what you’re willing to offer. Be sure you agree on the amount of time you’re willing to provide on an ongoing basis, and how long the mentorship would last.
5. What would you do differently if I mentored you?
This question will let you know how big she thinks and will help you decide whether or not this is a good fit.